Wow!  I was just looking at this and realized I hadn't updated the site in a long time.  Maybe because nothing has really changed other than we just sit and wait.  We did have our home study updated in July, which went really well.  I asked our social worker in August then if she had heard anything negative or positive about our profile as I thought maybe we needed to change something, but I would say no at this time because she did let us know that another birth mom had pretty much choose us, but she hadn't fully made up her mind if she was going to give the baby up yet or not, so they didn't want to put us through meeting her until she decided what her choice was and guess what she decided to parent.  So it was a good thing we didn't have to meet her, I don't know if we could have dealt with that again.  So I just have to keep reminding myself that we were only in the book 6 months and we had 2 birth mom's choose us, so that is a positive thing.  Just keep reminding myself that when the time is right it will happen.  Somedays are just so much harder than the next.  Someday I think we should just give up and then I have to remind myself that good things happen to those who wait!!

Michelle

June 30th

Well it has been a few weeks since my last post so just wanted to let everyone know we are doing good!  The first couple of days after we found out that we didn't get to bring Brooklyn(don't know if that is her name but will always be her name with us) home with us was the toughest, but we have decided that it just was not the right time for us to bring a baby into our home.  We have put our faith in God that he made the right choice for us.  I did get some good news the next week after this, as I had applied for a new position at work and I got the job.  I really didn't know if I wanted to apply for the job because I didn't know if I wanted to start a new position with a newborn, but someone that I have great respect for at work, asked me if I was applying and offered to write me a recommendation, so I thought what do I have to loose.  I really didn't think I had a chance because I knew of one other person who applied and thought she would get it.  So now I will be doing more technical stuff at work, which I like to do and have the time to do it as I did some of it before but didn't have the time to dedicated to research like I wanted.    So it has been a busy couple of week, but that is also a good thing because don't have much time to do a lot of thinking, because sometimes when I do have too much time to think that is when I think we could have done something different, but I know that it was not our fault.  We have also been watching our friends kids on Thursday night so that is fun for us..  2 boys and 1 girl.

Update on the adoption..  We have been put back into the profile book and I did talk to one of the social workers yesterday and she told me that they have been very busy with potential birth moms, so that is a positive thing.  Just keep saying a prayer that we won't have to wait forever!!

Looking forward to spending the time at the campground for the 4th. 

Happy 4th of July!!

june 7

as some of you may have heard things did not go as planned yesterday.  we did  not get to meet the baby as birthmom is having second thoughts.  last night was really hard but i have decided that god has a plan for everyone and even though we might not like it or understand it he knows what is best.  i told chris that we didnt do anything wrong and i dont think we could have done anything different, so we are just going to try to make the best of the hand we have been dealt.

michelle

June 6th 12:00 pm

Just got a call that birthmom is back in the hospital and is dialte to a 6 and they are going to keep her this time, so I am just waiting for Chris to get home so we can leave!!!  Will keep everyone update!!

Michelle

June 5th

So at about 6:30 tonight(Sunday) we got a phone call from the social worker saying that our birth mom was in the hospital, but they didn't know if they are going to keep her or not because her contractions are not real regular.  She is dialate to a four!  So we packed the car and sit and wait for phone call to tell us that they are keeping her and we should head out or they sent her home and we just wait again.  She hadn't seen the doctor yet when the social worker called us just the nurse.

So we here we sit with ants in our pants

Everyone say a prayer for us!!

Michelle

Journey

So as I have told some of you I was going to start a blog to keep everyone updated and I finally have done it and so I am going to start by just sharing some of our journey!

Our Journey began in October of 2009 when we first went to an adoption workshop with different agency and groups there and had round table discussions and a panel of adoptive families.  We then decided that we would go with Lutheran Social Services as they have been around a long time and we wanted to have someone that we felt we could trust.  So after much thought we decided we would wait until the first of the year to start the whole process, so in January we went to our first informational meeting and found out the next workshop was in February, which you had to be signed up for in a about a week otherwise the next local workshop wasn’t until June, so we hurried up and filled out our paperwork and got registered for the February workshop.  February 4 and 5^th we went to a 2 day workshop which is all about different aspect of adoption and came home with being overwhelmed each night!!!  Then in March we had to do a profile meeting which was another 4 hours for them to explain what our profile book (book birthparents look through to pick the adoptive family).  We then had to just wait until there was enough openings in the book for our whole workshop group to be able to go in at the same time as they only allow about 20 families in the book at a time, and we were told that we should work on our profile and it would be sometime between October and December when they would need them.  So of course I didn’t work on it for the summer, and then one day I decided I had to get it done and so sat down and wrote it all out with the expect for Chris’s part which was like pulling teeth to get him to do because he didn’t know what to write.  So we then just waited and finally got notice that December 15^th we would go into the profile book!!  That was a good Christmas present for us.  So the next waiting game began and we got a phone call in March asking if our profile could be viewed by a birthmother from another agency and we said yes of course but were kinda nervous about that one because of all the stuff she wanted so when we got told she didn’t pick up we were ok with it and knew the right one would come along and then on April 5^th I got a phone call from Shirley out of the Rapid City office asking if she could release our profile to Catholic Family Services as they had a birthmother that didn’t like any of their profiles and I said yes.  She told me that she would be looking at the profiles on Friday which was the 8^th and then on Monday April 11^th Shirley called to tell us the birth mom had chosen us and as you can imagine we were extremely excited!  We then set up a time to meet the birth mom as she wanted me to be in the delivery room when she had her c-section, so we meet with her on April 21^st and everything went very smooth and she was happy with her choice in us, so that was a wonderful birthday present for myself.  So we have just been getting everything ready for the arrival of our new baby girl, of course I have been doing some shopping!!  I think she is going to be one spoiled little girl.  They have changed from having a c-section to just letting birth mom having the baby natural so no we just are sitting and waiting for the phone call that she went into labor and will have to make a mad dash to Rapid City to meet our new baby girl.  Our bags are all packed and just waiting for the phone call and once we get it I hopefully will be able to update this site from my phone or maybe the hospital will have a computer I can use to update.  I will also post pictures and such once we get home!!!